Regret. We’ve all experienced it. It’s not what you’d call a pleasant emotion. It also tends to promote rumination and going over and over what we wished we had done differently. This is a similar process of counterfactual thinking that is common with other emotions such as guilt and shame. For people who work in […]
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As I was researching for our new Working With Emotions in Conflict online course, DeSteno’s name kept coming up in relation to the importance of emotions, and especially social emotions, for success. David DeSteno writes a lot on the concept of intertemporal choice (I wrote about this concept in conflict in one of my LinkedIn
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Many people think about hope as an emotion that is akin to faith or wishful thinking. However, hope theorists such as Snyder describe hope as a way of thinking. The best thing about approaching hope in this way, is that it becomes something that we can learn (and support others to develop). For our purposes,
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This book includes a collection of very thoughtful essays that challenge us to think beyond coaching as a tool to improve performance within existing outdated, dysfunctional and even toxic systems. Einzig asks: Should the role of the coach evolve? What is the role of coaching today? Can coaches support leaders to transform the rules of
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What is intertemporal choice? You may not have heard the term “intertemporal choice” but I’m sure you all experience it often. Intertemporal choice (DeSteno, 2009) is a situation in which decisions hold different consequences as time unfolds. Here’s an example using the impact of anger in a negotiation: If we are in a negotiation, and
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I have to agree with Adam Grant’s comment on the front of this book. It’s the smartest, clearest and funniest book I’ve ever read about the brain. This book is such a wonderful introduction to neuroscience and it is written in such an accessible way. There are chapters about how the left and right sides
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NEW BOOK: Facilitating with stories: Ethics, Reflective Practice and Philosophies, edited by Andrew Rixon and Cathryn Lloyd I’m delighted to announce the release of a new book, to which I contributed a chapter! My chapter is called “The Ethics of Working with Someone to Change Their Story: Managing Power” This book provides a rich connection
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The impact that a person’s emotional experience or expression may have on others depends on a few factors. Here’s a brief overview of some of the things that might make a difference. The level of interdependence of the people involved If the person perceiving the other’s emotions has no relationship with them, and no intentions
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Before reading this book, I didn’t know there was a whole field of research on the history of emotion, and it turns out it’s fascinating stuff! The field looks at variations in how emotions are understood across cultures and historical periods, both in terms of how they were experienced and how they were expressed. This
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I conducted a poll on social media recently, asking people which emotion they found the most challenging to deal with in conflict, and about half the respondents said it was anger. When we think about conflict, one of the main emotions that springs to mind is anger. Anger may lead to conflict arising. It may
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