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REAL WORLD INSIGHTS: How we adapt our interpersonal conflict strategies

Coleman argues that there are three different criteria for how we might adapt our interpersonal conflict strategies:  relational importance, goal type, power differences. These different criteria lead to seven basic types of interpersonal situations.

These include:

  1. where the conflict is of low importance (independence),
  2. compassionate responsibility (high power, cooperative goals),
  3. partnership (equal power, cooperative),
  4. cooperative dependence (low power, cooperative),
  5. command and control (high power, competitive),
  6. enemy territory (equal power, competitive), and
  7. unhappy tolerance (low power, competitive).

Research has shown that each of these situations tends to elicit from us a particular orientation to conflict, which is culturally normative or expected for each situation:

  • autonomy (in situations of independence),
  • benevolence (in compassionate responsibility),
  • cooperation (in partnership),
  • support (in cooperative dependence),
  • dominance (in command and control),
  • competition (in enemy territory), and
  • appeasement (in unhappy tolerance).

Coleman, P. T., K. Kugler, A. Mitchinson, C. Chung, and N. Musallam. (2010). The view from above and below: The effects of power and interdependence asymmetries on conflict dynamics and outcomes in organizations. Negotiation and Conflict Management Research 3(4):283–311

Coleman, P. T., and R. Ferguson. (2014). Making conflict work: Harnessing the power of disagreement. Boston, MA: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.

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