I recently had an interesting conversation with someone who started out by describing their boss as a “narcissistic personality” and who was looking for some advice about how to get them to change their behaviours towards staff. Work with behaviours, not labels The first step is to emphasize the importance of avoiding labelling the boss […]
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In many workplaces, policies around conflict between employees say something to the effect that the person should first try to resolve the matter directly with the person with whom they are in conflict. If that is not successful or not possible, then they should raise the matter with their line manager, and/or a representative from
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When setting up your practice, it’s important to have all your documents in order. Many people don’t prepare in advance and then are in a last-minute panic when the first client turns up and they need paperwork! It’s also important to remember that each client may need different types of paperwork, so you adapt and
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One question to think about at the very start is what is your purpose for gathering feedback / testimonials? It is always useful to gather feedback to constantly improve your services, but it’s important not to ask for feedback when what you are really looking for are testimonials for marketing purposes. Transparency is essential. In
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Who is involved in the coaching relationship? Coaching involves a relationship between at least two people – the coach and the person being coached (who may be called a client or a coachee – recognizing that not all people being coached are technically ‘clients’ of the coach). Coaching may sometimes involve more than two people
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Curiosity is more than just a tool for gathering information. While curiosity can lead to an increase in our knowledge, it’s most useful when it also leads to greater understanding. However, curiosity is not just useful because of what it “gets” us, it can also change us, and be a force for meaningful connection and
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HISTORY OF THE TERM EMPATHY German philosopher Theodor Lipps first introduced the term Einfuhlung (empathy) around 1903 to describe how we should fully appreciate a work of art. His idea was that we should project ourselves into the work and experience it from within, rather than imposing our own frame of reference to interpret the
What is trauma informed practice? There is a lot of talk at the moment about trauma, and the need for a broad range of practitioners to ensure that their practice is “trauma-informed”. This includes anyone who works with people who may have experienced trauma, not just those who provide therapeutic services to survivors of trauma. Having a
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I’m sure you’ve all heard of the concept of the amygdala hijack. You’ve probably even used it as an explanation for why we sometimes do crazy things in the heat of the moment. Maybe you (or your clients) have even used it as an excuse for bad behaviour! The problem is that while the concept
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Empathy and compassion fatigue exists across a diverse range of professionals, particularly those who deal with clients who are experiencing strong emotions. Practitioners who work with people in conflict are no stranger to strong emotions, particularly those that are considered “negative” such as anger and frustration. It is important that conflict practitioners are aware of the
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